Vanessa Bsirsky

From Boring To Scoring

What do you need in order to score points?

That's right, you need a goal !But how exactly do we define a goal ? Well, that's easy :

A goal is quite simply something that we want to do, something that we want to be or something that we want to have , which at this point in time we are not, we don't do or we don't have.

All successful people have got goals. Research at Yale University has shown that only 3% of the population have got specific, written down goals. Interestingly enough, the same group of people are usually worth more than the remaining 97% of the population altogether by the time they have reached the age of 65 - wow !

So why is that ? Maybe that's because they knew where they were going !Wouldn't it be easier to throw together a jigsaw puzzle if you knew what the outcome was going to look like ? You bet so !

Jerry Clark once made the following statement : "If you don't know where you are going, the last thing you want to do is get there any quicker." I believe that this is very true.

He also believes that most people die at the age of 25 but don't get buried until the age of 95 !

They wake up one morning with the sinking feeling that things are not quite right - the feeling that they've been had. Make sure you aren't one of them !

But what has happened there ? And how has it happened ? These individuals suddenly realise that their lives are almost over, and that they haven't lived their dream. Life seems to have gone by so quickly. These realisations can be very sad, and also extremely painful.

Somewhere along the line, things have gone wrong.These folks have allowed themselves "to go with the flow", and "to be swept along." In addition, they have learned not to be too demanding. After all, one shouldn't be too selfish, right ?

But how exactly do those people know that things aren't going well ? They know because they feel tired, broke and miserable. And disheartened.

However, for some of them this can be the vital and much needed turning point. And if that is the case, then that's great - as it's never too late. For a few others things won't ever change though - as all they want to do is to sit on their pitypots and feel sorry for themselves. Bless !

So how about you ? What does your heart truly desire ? And what are your very personal goals, ambitions and dreams ? Have you got any ? If the answer is no, then I strongly suggest that you get some. When ? Now ! But why now ? Because if you don't do it now, then all you are going to get is old.

Isn't it amazing that most people seem to spend hours and days planning their summer holidays, but never spend a minute on designing their lives ? It just seems crazy ! I actually find it fascinating...

But let's move on. All heroes tend to go from tragedy to triumph. Do we want more tragedy ? No ! Do we want triumph? Yes!

Start by asking yourself the following questions, and then write down the answers - in depth. By the way, have you got your pen ready ? Remember, the winning 3% of the population are putting their goals down in writing :-)

What do you really want from your life ? On all levels ? Emotionally, physically, mentally, vocationally, spiritually and financially ? What would bring you true happiness ? And why ? Who would you ideally want to spend your time with ? How much money would you like to be worth ? Where would you like to have been and been seen ? What would that mean to you ? And what would it feel like ?

Now that you know what you really want, and why you want it, you can create an action plan. Start with the overall goal, and then break it down into small, achievable baby steps. Don't try to achieve everything at once.

Why not ? Because winners pace themselves, whilst losers only know two speeds : hysterical and lethargic.

Have fun along the way : live everyday with passion, and with the knowledge that life is a wonderful, precious gift, worthy to be celebrated and lived to it's fullest.

Having the knowledge that you are now designing and manifesting your dream, you can easily go from boring to scoring !

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Is Gratitude Your Attitude?

Have you ever had a moment in your life when everything  around you just seemed negative, hopeless, and doomed?

Of course you have, otherwise you wouldn't be human!

We all have encountered - and will continue to do so - situations and circumstances that just feel disheartening, overwhelming and maybe even paralyzing.  In times like this, we might tend to ask ourselves one or even all of the following questions:

Why does this always happen to me? Why do things have to be so difficult? What's the point of me trying so hard when all I ever do seems to end up in a complete disaster?

If you have ever dwelled on any of the above - which you probably have - then I would like to encourage you to pause for a moment.

Think about it :

Did these questions encourage you to move toward a much more positive state of mind ? Or, and this is far more likely, did they simply make you feel sorry for yourself ?

Hmmm......

Also, do you truly believe that you are the only one who struggles ?

I mean, really?

If you do ,then I suggest that you wake up and stop taking  yourself so seriously ! Every single person on this planet goes through difficult times , and life can be very tough for all of us.

But what could have happened if you had asked yourself a whole set of different questions when going through a challenging phase? Questions that would have been more empowering? For example:

What is the lesson to be learned from this situation?  What is this really trying to show me ? How can I turn things around ? How can I stop this from happening ? And also, is there maybe a much deeper meaning to this that I don't yet understand?

I can assure you that the outcome would have been a lot more fruitful.  Tony Robbins once said that life is like a game of Jeopardy - all the solutions and all the answers are already within you, you only need to ask the right questions. Aha...........interesting!

But let's delve a little bit deeper...

What did we focus on when we asked ourselves the first set of questions? That's right, on all the things that were wrong with our lives !

But hang on Vanessa, should we just ignore those bad feelings and live in a state of denial?

Of course not - allow yourself to feel the pain, acknowledge it , do everything in your power to heal it, and then clean up your act  and move on.

How?

By implementing the lessons learned, and starting to focus on all the positive things in your life !

I can hear a few people complaining now, saying things like :

"What on earth is she talking about ? My life is bad ! Besides, I am single, I am broke, and I hate my job ! Why don't the council just do something ? Anyway, the world is full of criminals and terrorists ! How can anyone in their right mind be positive ? How can anyone bring children into this world ? These people have just lost the plot !"

Ouch!!

If that's you, then I would like to encourage you to re-think, and consider the following:

What have you got in your life that you could - and in my personal opinion should - be really grateful for? How about your health? And the fact that you got somewhere to live? The fact that you got food on your table on a daily basis? A lot of people haven't got that. How about the electricity and hot water that you have in your home?

You might think that electricity and hot water aren't anything special, and that you ought to have them anyway.

Why do you think that?  Many people haven't got them and never will do.

How about your family ? Your friends, or even the one good and loyal friend that you have?  Your pet, who loves you unconditionally ? Your eyesight , which enables you to read this blog at this very moment ? Your faith, your love, your generosity ? Your promising future, your furniture, your car, your job, your business, your ideas ? Your strength to overcome difficult times ? Your freedom?

Also, do you really have to go along with all the negative stuff ? And do you want to? Or could you be part of a different , more positive kind of evolution altogether ?

Hmmm....

Remember,it's your decision whether you want to fall asleep in front of the television every night, or whether you want to surround yourself with positive people and read empowering books. It's your decision whether you want to blame and complain, or whether you want to sit by a stream and meditate. Furthermore, it is not only your decision, it is also your responsibility.

But what do you mean by that? What does responsibility really stand for ? Responsibility is our ability to respond to life in a constructive, mature and positive manner.

Why not start and take some responsibility now ?

Make a list of all the things that you are grateful for, and review it from time to time. This will help you to completely shift your focus , and show you that the universe is actually supporting and nurturing you, rather than holding you back.

Whatever you are grateful for will grow in your life - guaranteed.

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